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In the Thread: Listening playback with my wife.
Post Subject: Listening playback with my wife.Posted by Romy the Cat on: 4/21/2018
I have a constant straggle with my wife. We have to a great
degree similar musical tastes and generally we love to listed music together.
After all, we met because we both admire Bruckner. However, we have very different
patterns how she and I listen music home. This was a source of many debates and
arguments and to a degree moved us to a situation when I tend do not listen
music together. It is primary because of me as I detest her listening style
more then she detests mine.
Most of my life I am accustom to the setting when I am in my
listening chair listening music I solely dedicated to the listening activity. I
might do something else but if I do I clearly feel that I was not music
listening but just being in room where music is playing. If I am interested in a
specific work or a specific interpretation then my mind switches to a single activity
mode and I very much prefer not to be distracted internally or externally.
Amy does it very different. When she listens music in our
playback room she very seldom does just listening. She tends to have a computer
with her, a book, a magazine or anything else that in my mine is a hugely prohibitive.
For whatever reason I feel very offended when she does it. I made her a few
times just to sit in the listening chair and juts to listen. She very much enjoyed
it BUT it happens always under my supervision and under my micro-managerial control.
Still, if she free to do what she wants then mostly the definition of “good
time” for her is to sit in the listening room, play Bach and to read the stupid
“New York Times”.
I understand that a smartest way would be to have a compromise
when we are together, I am listening my music and she is next to me browsing
shoes online. The problem is that for whatever reason it makes me very angry.
Even if I convince her just to be with me and juts to listen music together
then she slowly begins to reposition her body in the setting that in my view
not suitable for music listening. It annoys me. I hugely enjoy when she is laying
on my laps or jumps like a monkey all over me but I would like us to be
together just listening our music. After all she doe not behave like this
during live concerts…
I wonder if it is a general difference between men and women
or it is just me and my Amy? All of my former women with whom I dealt where not
truly interested for me from musical perspective. Even if they were interested
I did not care about them too much and I did not want to be with them while I
am listening my music. With Amy it’s
very different. I want her to be in my life organically intertwined with my
musical experiences. It makes me to feel her deeper and it tremendously enriches
my music. I just wish we did not have so different ways to consume music from
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